By Kelly Mutizira
Did you wake up this morning with the realization that it’s the sixth month of the year, asking yourself, “What have I achieved thus far?”
I pulled out a list of goals I had made at the beginning of this year, only to see that I haven’t achieved very much from the list. Nor have I achieved as much as my peers have. I felt somewhat of a failure.
(Photographer: Chanelle Sanjit)
You may relate to this. You may feel like a failure because you haven’t set any solid goals yet, or maybe you haven’t achieved any of the goals you set or worse, you have not achieved your goals as well as your peers have.
One of the main internal problems we encounter: Comparison.
Comparison is the thief of joy. The reason why we as people see ourselves as failures in these situations is that we compare our achievements to those of others. We concentrate more on them than on ourselves. Do not compare your growth with anyone else’s. The only person you’re competing with is who you were yesterday. As you read this I want to remind you that your growth will never be the same as anyone else’s. Comparison can make you feel prideful or depressed, but never fulfilled.
If you feel like a failure because you haven’t set any goals to achieve this year or aren’t as far as you had hoped to be, now is the time to take control. Stop looking at those around you. Concentrate. Dreams don’t work unless you do! Grab yourself a pen and a piece of a paper, write every single thing you want in your life. It’s important to write how you plan to obtain those wants too.
Ask yourself these questions:
What is it that I’d like to achieve within the next six months?
How am I going to get there?
What can I do to eliminate negative comparisons?
Where am I falling short?
Breathe. You still have time. Continue to learn from these realizations and grow. Live within your means, not just financially, but within all aspects of your life. Set realistic goals. Do what you can, where you are, with what you have.
“You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.” – C.S. Lewis
Comparison seems to be a common topic of discussion, read Screw It, Do It Your Own Way for further insight.